Not every relationship has a
meaning, not every relationship has a cause, not every relationship has a happy
ending and not every relationship starts with a beautiful beginning. In fact to
the best of my knowledge there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. It’s
how two people deal with their imperfections that makes you perfect. Every relationship is uncommon and every
relationship has a unique meaning in itself and only the person in that
relationship actually understands the meaning of being there. That is because
in every relationship the two persons are unique. There has never been a person
exactly like you, God never creates a copy. Even two identical twins have
different likes, different thoughts and different manners. So this tells us, we
must never compare our relationship with any other relationships. People often
do this mistake and often end up spoiling their own charm of a relationship.
We human by nature are so greedy
that we can’t usually control our wants and need and that is the reason,
nothing actually satisfies us. And until we are satisfied within ourselves we
keep on searching a reason to be blamed on, usually those reason can be easily
found in and around in your relationships, more often in relationships like
Spouse, Living Partner or Lover. Finally there comes a time, when this human
nature of ours starts believing on our own blames. Fact is that we are not
satisfied, actually no one is and so we blame it on someone to start on and
then finally we take those blame so seriously that we start believing it as a precision.
The relationship doesn’t succeed until we have door of choice open, once we
close that door of choice and start living and accepting the situation we are
in, usually things do change, if not at least the view towards it becomes
positive. Whenever ever, you are in a situation when you need to re-think about
your relationship, close the doors of choice on your face. Think of
consequences of each and every door and path getting from there and finally you
will get way out to improve your current situation, your present relationship
and most of the time it works. The two people in a relationship are the only
two people in the world who could make the relationship work or fail. There is
no other person who can play a key role in spoiling or improving it until you
personally aren’t willing to do so.
Usually there are times, when
good people keep on staying in a bad relationship as well. I had a friend, who
almost cried daily for 8 years, she was badly unhappy with her relationship
still refused to move out. Sometimes there are those consequences also when you
have no other option but to leave and still at times people cannot just move
on. Psychology says that how and why humans attach themselves another and form relationships
may be that is the mysterious crazy glue that keeps us in a relationship. Some
people are afraid of falling in love or relationship because of bad
experiences, some people are afraid of trusting blindly in a relationship by
hearing the cases of breach and betrayal, whereas some people are also afraid
of moving out of relationship because of society issues, future issues and
sometimes impact of it on their children. We actually don’t know which fear out
of all this fears are true and we also don’t know the limit of staying in a
relationship or limit of moving out. There are no so called rules and
regulations for a relationship. As I mentioned earlier there are no identical
humans and so there cannot be an identical level of compromises or tolerance.
When a human attaches himself/herself to another human in a manner where we
actually feel committed, he/she keeps on trying as much as possible to stay in
that relationship. It is usually a traumatic condition and sometimes you lose
everything in the process of keeping your relationship intact and sometimes
chances are that you may discover the hidden treasure of your relationship.
According to me it’s worth taking
a chance in your relationship as much as it is possible from your side. We
cannot predict the future, we don’t know what our next relationship could hold
for us or we even don’t know that we would ever again be able to attach ourselves
in a manner with any other individual? Think again, give yourself a chance,
give your relationship the attention and try to cultivate it by every possible
means. Who knows that seed of love can bring on the plant of happiness for your
future!
Finally, A true relationship is when someone accepts your
past, supports your present and encourages your future, where you can be
yourself and where you don’t have a burden to hide on, where-in you can fly
like a free bird, have your own world, have your own wings yet behold the
treasure of flying together.
