Saturday, November 9, 2013

Relationships - Confusing, Ain't It?

Not every relationship has a meaning, not every relationship has a cause, not every relationship has a happy ending and not every relationship starts with a beautiful beginning. In fact to the best of my knowledge there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. It’s how two people deal with their imperfections that makes you perfect.  Every relationship is uncommon and every relationship has a unique meaning in itself and only the person in that relationship actually understands the meaning of being there. That is because in every relationship the two persons are unique. There has never been a person exactly like you, God never creates a copy. Even two identical twins have different likes, different thoughts and different manners. So this tells us, we must never compare our relationship with any other relationships. People often do this mistake and often end up spoiling their own charm of a relationship.

We human by nature are so greedy that we can’t usually control our wants and need and that is the reason, nothing actually satisfies us. And until we are satisfied within ourselves we keep on searching a reason to be blamed on, usually those reason can be easily found in and around in your relationships, more often in relationships like Spouse, Living Partner or Lover. Finally there comes a time, when this human nature of ours starts believing on our own blames. Fact is that we are not satisfied, actually no one is and so we blame it on someone to start on and then finally we take those blame so seriously that we start believing it as a precision. The relationship doesn’t succeed until we have door of choice open, once we close that door of choice and start living and accepting the situation we are in, usually things do change, if not at least the view towards it becomes positive. Whenever ever, you are in a situation when you need to re-think about your relationship, close the doors of choice on your face. Think of consequences of each and every door and path getting from there and finally you will get way out to improve your current situation, your present relationship and most of the time it works. The two people in a relationship are the only two people in the world who could make the relationship work or fail. There is no other person who can play a key role in spoiling or improving it until you personally aren’t willing to do so.

Usually there are times, when good people keep on staying in a bad relationship as well. I had a friend, who almost cried daily for 8 years, she was badly unhappy with her relationship still refused to move out. Sometimes there are those consequences also when you have no other option but to leave and still at times people cannot just move on. Psychology says that how and why humans attach themselves another and form relationships may be that is the mysterious crazy glue that keeps us in a relationship. Some people are afraid of falling in love or relationship because of bad experiences, some people are afraid of trusting blindly in a relationship by hearing the cases of breach and betrayal, whereas some people are also afraid of moving out of relationship because of society issues, future issues and sometimes impact of it on their children. We actually don’t know which fear out of all this fears are true and we also don’t know the limit of staying in a relationship or limit of moving out. There are no so called rules and regulations for a relationship. As I mentioned earlier there are no identical humans and so there cannot be an identical level of compromises or tolerance. When a human attaches himself/herself to another human in a manner where we actually feel committed, he/she keeps on trying as much as possible to stay in that relationship. It is usually a traumatic condition and sometimes you lose everything in the process of keeping your relationship intact and sometimes chances are that you may discover the hidden treasure of your relationship.

According to me it’s worth taking a chance in your relationship as much as it is possible from your side. We cannot predict the future, we don’t know what our next relationship could hold for us or we even don’t know that we would ever again be able to attach ourselves in a manner with any other individual? Think again, give yourself a chance, give your relationship the attention and try to cultivate it by every possible means. Who knows that seed of love can bring on the plant of happiness for your future!


Finally, A true relationship is when someone accepts your past, supports your present and encourages your future, where you can be yourself and where you don’t have a burden to hide on, where-in you can fly like a free bird, have your own world, have your own wings yet behold the treasure of flying together. 

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